TALK

Mens Mental Health.

A constant feeling of dread, unworthiness or worthlessness is not a part of everyones normal day to day life. The feeling of not wanting to get out of bed in the morning or the unwillingness to return home after work is not something that should be a repetitative part of your routine.

If you are feeling in continuious distress or are extremely unhappy it is now time to grab a friend, grab a coffee & start a conversation.

Does one of your friends, family members or collegues have an unusual stubbly and wirey situation growing around their mouths that isnt usually there? Did this suddenly appear on November 1st? This is an indication that this friend, family member or collegue understands and wants to help.

How to ask for help? 

Everyone encourages people to talk, and percieves this to be the key in tackling mental illness but at the Zachary Geddis Break the Silence Trust we understand that talking is easier advised than actually done, so I have complied some steps to get you prepared to talk.

  • Pick a person, a place and a date – work towards this.
  • Write everything down or make a voice note.
  • Write down your thoughts and feelings, when you feel the most sad or unhappy – maybe you feel nothing, feel shame or worthlessness. Maybe just simply say, ‘I am not happy’
  • On the date – hand them the note, ask them to listen to the voice memo or read it to them dont be afraid – be proud that you have made the first step in your journey to recovery.
  • Explain to them what you want the outcome of the conversation to be. (understanding, support or advice).
  • Ask them if they have any questions for you about what you have just told them.

Leave the location having made a difference to your life and your future. No one wants to be sad, everyone wants to and deserves to feel alive. Simply telling someone what is going on can be the medicine you need.

If you have tried this and it has not helped or you do not feel that you are surrounded by the right type of people to confide in or feel awkward or shame you also have the following options to start your recovery:

  • Write in a journal – creative expression is a very calming and theraputic method to releasing tension, frustration and anger.
  • Contact your GP – express to them that you feel you may need to be placed on to a mental health unit waiting list to be able to access a physiatrist or a professional counsellor.
  • Once an appointment with the mental health unit is secured, look around your local area for a mens shed or a non profit chartiable mental health organisation that can provide you with support between the time you are waiting for your appointment to come through for the mental health unit.